Ana Theresa Williams BSN RN
There are some indivi-duals who are already old in age but when it comes to their emotio-nal intelli-gence or E.Q. they are very poor and needs im-provement.
In Psy-chiatry Nursing, we learned the 10 basic characteristics of an emotionally mature individual, which you can check for yourself as well:
- Independent and responsible individual. Most of us Filipinos, even at age 60, are still living in our parents’ house. And it’s been our culture and norm to allow such circumstances. But the big question here is that, are you trying to be independent despite staying in your parents’ roof at an older age? Are you responsible enough to take care of your needs?
- Giving and pro-ductive. What have you contributed in your life for the past 10 to 20 years that certainly made a difference, not only to the community, but also to yourself as an individual?
- Cooperative. Being cooperative to the commu-nity like throw your trash in the proper place or follow the rules of driving a vehicle, among others. Or do you know how to read the traffic light signs?
- With minimal hostility towards himself and others. Do you tend to destroy the reputation of your office mates or friends by sprea-ding false accusations or news that he or she is like this and that without knowing the truth behind it? Are you a “combatant” or war-freak person? A grumpy old person?
- Able to create a proper balance between your work and play. Do you take time to rest and have some recreation, other than full-time work?
- Capacity to love and be loved. Do you always hate the people around you? Do you tend to keep grudges and tell lies about people you hate by spreading rumors about them? An emotionally mature person knows how to love and forgive and will be loved by everyone in return. No enemies at all, as much as possible.
- Has the ability to empathize with others. Do you know how to understand and share the feelings of others?
- Able to accept his own sex and his opposite sex and to develop a relation between the two in ways they are appropriately fulfilled. Are you confused of your iden-tity? But here it is: It is sometimes said that the friendship between Da-vid and Jo-nathan (1 Samuel 18:3-4, 2 Samuel 1:26) was an example of a homosexual relationship. The rela-tionships bet-ween Ruth and Naomi (Ruth 1:14) and between Jesus and John (“the disciple Jesus loved” in John 13:23; 19:26; 21:7; 21:20) are also men-tioned.
In modern Western culture we associate tou-ching, kissing and the word “love” with a sexual relationship. But that was not at all the case in Biblical era culture. Most Bible scholars say these relationships were no more than close friend-ships. That is especially clear in the case of Jesus and John – the word translated as “loved” was the Greek word agape, which means kindness and respect rather than romantic or sexual love.
- Has the ability to accept things and people the way they are, rather than the way he wants them to be. Are you trying to change what the “original picture” is all about?
- Can accept the leadership of others without rebellion. Are you one of the people protesting in the streets, fighting for their rights and other cause of their activities?
Being emotionally mature is very important to be successful in everything you do whether at home, school or work. It is actually one of the requirements prior to being qualified as a psychiatric nurse in the hospital. Glory to God, I don’t have problems with it.
Also, to be emotionally mature means you’re responsible enough, trustworthy and possesses other matured traits.
The second requirement to become a psychiatric nurse is being adaptable. It means, you can easily adjust to different personalities of the people like your working colleagues, or other situations.
One of the best assets of any nurse is having that creative imagination. This includes being resourceful.
Inductive reasoning is also necessary like being logical in reasoning at all times, have foresight, and free from illusions or hallucinations.
Lastly, a pioneering spirit. Have enthusiasm and initiate new methods and encourage others to follow.
HEALTHWATCHING: But now Christ is risen from the dead, and has become the firstfruits of those who have fallen asleep. For since by man came death, by Man also came the resurrection of the dead. For as in Adam all die, even so in Christ all shall be made alive. 1 Corinthians 15:20-22